CHAPTER ONE: THE CHALLENGE OF MARRIAGE

You, Me and Marriage
Men Suffer in Marriage—But Don’t Want to Talk About It
Men Are Cut Out to Take Action

CHAPTER TWO: CREATE AVISION FOR YOUR MARRIAGE AND LEAD THE WAY

Reach for a Powerful Marriage
Make a New Commitment to Your Marriage
Your Marriage Vision: A Powerful and Alive Marriage
Create an “H” Marriage—Not an “A” or an “I” Marriage
The Ultimate Purpose of Marriage
Marriage and Emotional Security
Use Your Marriage to Learn About Yourself
A Three-Part Vision
The Search for Love in Marriage
You Won’t Get the Love You Are Looking for From Your Wife
Base Marriage Commitment on Integrity, Not Duty
Commit to Grow Together, Not Just to Stay Together
Commitment Evolves Over Time, and It Can’t Be Forced
Put Your Wife First and Your Children Second
Commit to Fidelity and Sexual Exclusivity in Marriage
If You Leave Your Wife, the Next Woman
Stand for Honesty in Your Marriage
Stand Fully in Your Masculine Power (It’s OK to Be a Man!)
What Does It Mean to Be “Masculine” in a Marriage?

CHAPTER THREE: TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR OWN ISSUES

Where Are You Going?
To Have a Meaningful Life and Marriage
Deal With Your Wife’s Criticism: Take Responsibility for Your Own Growth
The Things You Loved Her for at the Beginning Drive You Crazy
You Chose Your Wife Because
We Marry to Heal Our Childhood Injuries and to Learn
Your Wife Won’t Satisfy All Your Desires
Choose to Learn From Your Reactions Rather Than to Run Away From Them
Practice the Art of Self-Discovery
Learn to Be Vulnerable: It’s Attractive to Your Wife and Vital for You
Become Comfortable With Intimacy

CHAPTER FOUR: TUNE INTO YOUR WIFE

Find Out What She Likes and Needs
Treating Your Wife as an Equal
Friendship Will Help Keep You Together
Your Job Is to Promote Your Wife’s Well-Being
If You Want It to Work, Learn to Listen
Speak Your Own Truth
How to Say What You Mean—And Not Cause Trouble
Your Defensiveness Decreases Your Power and Increases Her Criticism
If Your Wife Is Aggressive Toward You
Criticisms Are Often Requests in Disguise
Have the Guts to Stay and Fight— But Fight With Integrity
Watch for the “Key Moment” and Turn the Conflict Around
Pull Your Own Weight
Men Have Sex to Connect— Women Want to Connect Before Having Sex

CHAPTER FIVE: FOR WOMEN: SECRETS OF THE MARRIED MAN’S MIND

Men in Marriage
Changes in Marriage
Valuing Men
Criticism and Change
Taking Care of a Man
Communicating With a Man
How to Talk to Your Man About Your Relationship
Communication and Intimacy
Appreciation and Power
Relationships and Fantasies
Managing the Relationship
Men, Marriage and Sex