1. I am 100% committed
to keeping my marriage alive and strong.
2. I listen to the criticism
my spouse gives me so I can hear what she requests or needs
from me.
3. I have a clear and
inspiring vision for my marriage, and I am committed to it.
4. I take total responsibility for my
own internal issues, feelings and blind spots, and I don’t expect
my spouse to take care of them.
5. I listen to understand how my wife
feels, and I don’t interrupt or try to solve the problem she
presents.
6. I stand up for my wife’s
well-being and growth, even if I have to challenge her sometimes--and
I expect
the same from her.
7. I ask for honesty
from my wife, and I give the same.
8. I understand how
to connect with my spouse so she will feel more motivated to
have sex with me.
9. I deal with conflict openly and with
integrity: I stay in the room, try to listen to my spouse, and
attempt to resolve the issues.
10. I openly and constructively communicate
my own needs and feelings (even though I may not do it like
a woman would).
11. I feel like I can be a strong, masculine person at home—not
wimpy or macho.
12. I am OK with my wife being a powerful person
in the world.
